I was talking to a friend the other day about humor. This might sound weird, but think about the real reason why you laugh when someone says something funny. Are you giggling because what the person said was silly or are you laughing at what the person said because what they said was so moronic you couldn't help it? Seriously?
I've been in "relationships" with dudes that weren't really funny, but I told myself that they were filling my quota for humor. They would say things that would make me giggle at them. For example, a guy once tell me that he didn't want any hot chocolate before bed because he would have "chocolate nightmares". I couldn't help but laugh. He was serious. Who says shit like this? Funny? Yes . . .er . . . and not really.
Their is another type of humor that you really have to watch out for too. This is the laughter that comes from making fun of someone. This is not real humor and will never give you joy. I used to hang out with people who loved doing this and it was funny at the moment, but ended up making me feel guilty in the end. Sometimes people do stupid shit and it is funny to watch and call them on it, but making fun of someone for something they can't help isn't funny. We all know better, but we still do it under the guise of humor. It's just mean, and that's not funny.
On the other hand, I've found that genuine humor is very important to me. I love to laugh. I love spending time with people who make me laugh. Real laughter. Genuine humor is not forced, or at the expense of others. Real humor comes from somewhere special inside. It's a belly laugh at a television show. It's being silly for absolutely no reason. Limit the time you spend with people who are not genuine . . . or funny, because life is just too short to live without genuine humor.
And once you find that person (a friend, a significant other, co-worker) who brings you genuine joy, treasure them.
Be love, but be funny too, my lovelies!
Heeeeee,
Nik
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