Confidence Is Key

So, my friend asked me the other night, "What am I doing wrong when I meet girls?" My response to him was this:

Attraction is a tricky bitch . . . but confidence is key.

Confidence is, "Hey, this is who I am. I'm interested in who you are." Confidence is not, "You're cool, but I'm amazing (as I check myself out in the mirror behind you)." One of my biggest pet peeves is when a guy is talking to me while checking his phone and scanning the room. About 30 seconds of this and I bounce.

Confidence is, "Wow, you look really nice tonight." Confidence is not "Damn, baby, you are sooooo fine." That's just annoying.

Confidence is, "I'm nervous as hell (though not said aloud), but I'm going to face this fear and talk to you anyway, because you're worth it." Confidence is not, "I will avoid this person and then get pissed because they don't call me, text me, or have the psychic ability to know that I have feelings for them because I am too scared to put myself out there--'cause I could get hurt and that would suck." Life is too short to depend on other people for confidence, happiness, love, etc. It's gotta start within you. Face that fear. (. . . this includes me.)

Confidence is, "Believing that you are worthy of having love in your life and just because love hasn't shown up yet, you aren't doing anything wrong. It is OK to have feelings (especially you gentlemen out there). Feeling stuff does not make you weak. You are human--so stop fighting it." Confidence is not, "Living your life in fear of your feelings, and that because you have them you are somehow flawed and a failure." Stop thinking about it so much and . . . Just let it happen. (hee)

So, "love hard" and live confidently without fear my lovely tea drinking blog readers.

Love always,
Nik

PS: Holy cow! Look at that guys guns!!!!! Nicccce . . .